Husband???

OK now this topic is always a bit sensitive. A husband? I've done this once before and well... it didn't work out the way I expected. I ended up being disappointed. It's unfortunate because I really did try to make it work.

We all have things in our past that were to some degree unpleasant but to allow it to dictate tomorrow, would be a complete waste of time.

We are all in control of how we behave. For instance: those girls who allow themselves to be treated as dolls, who are not dressed modestly with their cleavage out or their skirts so high that the world could be their gynecologist, bedding down with any one of the fellas that will not make honest women out of them. How about the guys who have low standards? They will do anything to "get laid" and not worry about the consequences. Nor do they have good intentions.

Even before I was a Muslim woman, I did have some cleavage but I tended to leave much to the imagination. I could never understand what the hoopla was about having so many parts showing.

Now getting back to a husband... what do I want in a mate? Well, I want him to be handsome (what?? I am entitled to a preference lol) IE.... full lips, strong nose, nice ears, soft hair (loves the curls<--- me).(ADDENDUM:The above are preferences not to be confused with a definite must and I am willing to make compromise) I want him to be kind, sweet, gentle, loving, loyal and above all ... honest. I want him to be fair with others. I expect him to have a great mind, Intelligence is important. I also want him to be stable enough to take good care of me so I can take a proper woman's role (for more info on that, read my other blog called "Woman's Role?")(also, the above qualities are a must and will not be compromised). I don't expect him to be rich or wealthy but comfortable is a must. The biggest must... He Must Be A Muslim!(Huge Must!!)

I imagine myself and my mate happy in life with one another, sharing our deen. I imagine a nice life without all of the complications other couples share in this world. Maybe this idea is just a bit unrealistic, but it is indeed possible. Insha'Allah it will happen before I am too old to enjoy what is left of my life on this planet.

I say:
Allah, if it would be good for me,
grant it to me, and make it all the way possible and easy to reach.
If it is not good for me,
make it the hardest thing to reach, and make barriers between me and that with which I seek.
Allah knows best what is good and bad for me.
(rough version of Istikharah Prayer but I'm sure you get the point)

Salam o/